Growing up, most of us were exposed to the dogma of staying and fighting for what is ours. Often times I have met friends and acquaintanc...
Growing up, most of us were exposed to the dogma of staying and fighting for what is ours. Often times I have met friends and acquaintances who decided to hold on to something with every breathe they had. They were drowning men. Most of us, if not all of us, have been preached to the sermon of “You have to make it work”.
We, in one way or the other, have blinded ourselves to the thin line that exists between holding on and fighting on. I remember, in the recent past, when I was caught up in the middle of a ‘break up’ conversation. With all the red lights flashing, no one wanted to move on with their lives. The most common reason was that they did not want to start over with someone else.
You see most people invest so much in something that even when it’s dying we refuse to let it go. It is like the characters in a Zombie apocalypse movie that refuse to abandon their relatives when they lose them to the disease. No matter how much you hold on and cry, they are gone. You have to face the facts and live with them. It is good to have some little faith but it is even better to know where the margin between faith and common sense is applicable. A friend of mine once told me that God gave us brains for a reason.
Starting over sometimes is like a breath of fresh air in a stuffy place. Most people are used to the stench of rotten relationships but because of some fears that cannot be explained they shun the fresh air of moving on.
Sometimes you have to let go just to discover how worthwhile the things you were holding on were. You see being strong doesn’t always mean that you have to keep on fighting. True strength is braving the fact that you have to walk away from all toxic situations. Sooner or later you realize that you will walk away from someone and no matter how slow you walk, they will never run after you. It will hurt I know but better still, someone will run towards you and embrace you with both arms.
You see dear friend, birds are not meant to be caged. Every time they take to flight they must trust in their ability to fly. Humans are more or less the same. We were not meant to be caged be it in toxic relationships or redundant situations. Every time you walk away you have to trust in your ability to form more meaningful relationships. Walking away serves as a lesson and as such makes you grow wiser. You sooner realize what you are made of. You realize your worth which you share with whomever you meet next.
Life is a journey dear friend. Yours is an adventure that you must be willing to explore. As it has always been said, a ship may look safer at the dock but its true test comes when it sets sail. If you chose to fight make sure you choose your battles wisely and if you walk away always remember that walking away with your head held high is a sign of dignity.
